Single parents and dating and when to introduce your children
I grew up as a member of the homeschool community back when we were hiding from the cops and getting our textbooks from public school dumpsters.When I was a teenager, my friends started reading this new book called I Kissed Dating Goodbye. After reading it myself, I grew into as big an opponent of dating as you could find.It often had symbols like the girl wearing the guy’s letter jacket.This telegraphed to everyone at school that she was “off the market” and that she had a “steady beau”.So if she went out for soda with Bob on Tuesday, she had to go to a movie with Bill on Thursday before she could go to the school dance with Bob on Saturday. The lack of exclusivity kept the interactions fun and casual. How could a boy have a claim to her time, heart or body if she was going out with someone else later that week?She went on to explain that by the time she graduated from high school, she had gone out on dates with over 20 different guys.But here are the elements most conservative communities have in common: My grandmother grew up in a marginally Christian community.People went to church on Sunday, but that was the extent of their religious activity.
And yet her community of friends all got married and then stayed married for decades and decades.I am not convinced that anyone is ever truly ready to get married.Readiness can become a carrot on a stick, an ideal that can never be achieved.This is different from my generation, which is encouraged to “wait until you are ready to get married” before pursuing a romantic relationship.This advice, when combined with the fact that “the purpose of courtship is marriage”, makes asking a girl out for dinner the emotional equivalent of asking for her hand in marriage.I explained what courtship was and quoted Joshua Harris, chapter and verse. “I don’t think courtship is a smart idea,” my grandfather said.