Dating someone in alcoholics anonymous
sleep disorders can be a huge problem….” Nagy also tips boyfriends and girlfriends to the widening and primarily generational dispute over the use of medications for craving or associated mental health disorders.
“Believing ‘a drug is a drug is a drug,’ many old-timers in recovery resist taking medications, whereas younger People in Recovery are more open to taking them if they need them.” Addicts new to recovery may be coming off a period of social isolation, and a sense of being cut off from others.
At the beginning of my sobriety, I couldn’t have imagined dating someone who was a casual drinker, but my boyfriend and I have been together three years now and have only had minimal conflicts when it comes to alcohol. Here are a few tips for dating someone who drinks when you are in recovery.
Of course, this is helpful in any relationship, but I’ve found that it’s especially important when one person drinks and the other does not.
But if dating people who participate in AA or NA is not your thing, than Nagy suggests dating people from SMART recovery, Secular Organizations for Sobriety, church, mental health peer support programs, therapy groups, and so on.
Her own experience, however, appears mainly limited to men in and out of 12-Step recovery programs.
Both partners in a relationship are constantly working a 12-step program and judging sometimes occurs.
It never hurts to say you’re sorry, if in fact you are. Perhaps the single most common complaint takes the form of jealousy or irritation: Why is the Person in Recovery spending so much time with those other people, rather than with me?
It’s not unusual for my boyfriend to come home after work and have a beer or two.
In the title of her book, Girlfriend of Bill, author Karen Nagy riffs on the time-honored public code for mutual AA recognition: “Are you a friend of [AA co-founder] Bill?
” Nagy says she was unable to find any material written “specifically for someone who is new to such a relationship or who is thinking about dating someone in recovery.” So she wrote one, and the publishing arm of Hazelden brought it out.While the controversial disease model of addiction continues to provoke heated debate, Nagy discovered that “knowing addiction is a disease has helped me to confront and get over my past prejudices about alcoholics and drug addicts, and to better understand why they might think, act, and react the way they do.” “Change is tough for all of us,” says Nagy, “but it can be especially hard for an addict” because of the strong tendency to rationalize and resist needed change.