Dating after loss of spouse
I felt sad and slightly excited, but this was all against the backdrop of my husband and his illness which was an ever present shadow looming in the background.
Years later, when I would look back on those occasions that might’ve called for me to be joyful, I felt that everything had been tainted.
I had several milestone events that occurred during my husband’s bout with Stage IV cancer. Many friends came together and surprised me with a beautiful party, but I missed not having my husband there by my side, as he was at home, in hospice care.
Several months earlier, I retired from my profession as an art teacher, having decided to give all my attention to caring for my husband Chuck.
Little did we know that this would be the final time most of these folks would see Chuck alive.
Just some five months down the road we would have our lives turned upside down by a diagnosis of volcanic portions. Although I didn’t have any widow or widower friends at that time, I’ve since encountered many people who’ve lost a spouse.
I did not think that that was possible in the beginning, but little by little as I set-aside time for myself, I was able to move my life forward.
Then, one day, I realized that the sun was shining brighter and I no longer felt his absence when I entered my home. It’s been several years now since I began this overwhelming but illuminating journey and so you might ask, “Do you still have feelings of sorrow even now?
Did you ever think you would ever survive after loss?You may find a message or an answer in the dream that helps you to begin to feel a bit better.These are a few mindfulness practices that can help to ease you through the grief journey. There are many online grief support groups and social media forums that did not exist when I lost my husband several years ago.You can read more about my recovery from loss in this blog post.Regaining my strength and vitality, being able to transform the pain from the loss of my husband into forever memories was my goal.The reality of the events that were taking place in my life was a joy killer that snatched away any chance of happiness or even the feeling of slightest happiness. We were at the mercy of circumstances that didn’t ask permission to be invited into our lives.