Dating a newly divorced guy
I give him everything that he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally, but still he flirts with other girls and has sexy conversations with them. You’re making a whole lot of assumptions in your question…
You say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl.
and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.
Do you know what’s at the core of why women put up with behavior they find unacceptable? The reality of it is that if you want to mentally and emotionally be in a place where you have any say in your relationship, you have to diminish your fear of loss.
In many cases, the void that people feel is caused by a feeling of separateness – a feeling that we don’t belong and aren’t acceptable.
When men act out in whatever way they act out, you’ll find what I just described at the heart of the matter: a deep feeling of separateness, insignificance and undesirability.
Understanding each other is the basis of connection.
The fact is, he has these sexy flirtations with other women, but you don’t really know why…
There are times where one person might inspire change in another person, but it’s because the other person wanted the change themselves as well.There are times where one person will get their act together because they’re afraid to lose something good or they’re determined to win something good.But I can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner.you don’t know his motivation or what he “gets” from it.Instead, you’re focusing on how YOU feel about it and that YOU don’t like it. You can feel hurt and victimized or you can open your eyes to the bigger picture…Russ, who was also raised by an alcoholic father, already had eight children, but 'something about Shawn rang a bell', he said., then known as Gregory Kingsley, became the first child to legally sever ties with parents.